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"Birthmother" Sacrifice and Ritual Sacrifice

"Ritual Sacrifice of -----mothers" and Ritual Sacrifice of Virgins
 
 

(Note: the disrespectful term "Birthmother" is used on this page ONLY for search engine placement.  No mother is a "birth object" - she is the mother of her child.)
 
From an Adoption Blog:
 
 "Birthmothers Sacrifice" and Ritual Sacrifice

In the historical fiction book "The Sacrifice" by Diane Matcheck, a 15-year-old Apsaalooka (Crow) Indian girl wanders into a "trap" set by another tribe. The story is set in the 18th century. According to the notes at the end of the book, "At the time of the story, the Skidi, or "Wolf" band of Pawnee had been performing the Morning Star sacrifice for so many years that no one knows when it began, and the details of why it was performed are no longer clear."

Her father's death has left her an orphan and the girl is an outcast among her people. She leaves her tribe and travels, overcoming many challenges and then wanders into the domain of the Wolf and lives among them. Although unaware of it, she is being "counseled" and groomed for the sacrifice. In a conversation with the boy who is her "counselor" the girl makes some interesting observations. The boy, Wolfstar, tells her "Our lives are not really our own." and also "We must follow the path given to us." He believes he must follow many dictates of his culture - that he cannot travel or marry outside his culture. He says, "...if I refuse to do what is asked of me, my people will perish." The girl is stunned by this.

When harvest-time comes, the people prepare for the sacrifice. The girl has learned the language quickly, which works in her favor. She overhears a conversation she is not supposed to hear. Wolfstar's father tells him "The girl must be at the ceremony tonight...The Morning Star must have the blood of that girl's heart, no matter what feelings you have for her." The boy she had trusted and thought of as her friend says "I have only done what you taught me: be kind to her, keep her happy and ignorant of her fate so that she may be led through the ceremony willingly when the time comes."

Later, during the ceremony the girl - still partly under the "spell" - submits to being "prepared" and to having her hands tied by the priest. She becomes panicky, as everyone begins to chant as part of the ritual. The suddenly it dawns on her that no one has touched her body directly. Guessing they must be forbidden to touch her, she decides to try it - she gets up and simply walks away. They cannot touch her. She has no horse, no weapon to help her survive. Her hands are still bound. But, she is alive and she manages to overcome the remaining obstacles.

This story of ritual sacrifice of a virgin closely matches a ritual sacrifice practiced in the United States and in some other countries - that is the ritual sacrifice of a family that is not of the "family-unit" type. In a culture where people believes it is inevitable, a pregnant mother is lured into the trap. She is "counseled" and groomed for the sacrifice. She is called a "birthmother" (sacrificial "offering" ) well in advance. The people she trusts believe they must go through with it or their "people", their culture, will perish. If they do not sacrifice this mother-and-child, there will be more instances of family that are not "family-units" - there may be grandparents helping to raise their grandchildren, there may be single fathers taking responsibility for their children. The mother who does not comprehend the real truth behind the biased "adoption language" - and who does not have the opportunity to overhear the true motives of the "adoption counselor" - may not extricate herself from the situation in time. The "birthmothers sacrifice" will please the gods and the people will profit from a great harvest - the harvest of a human baby for adoption.

But what about the sacrificial offering - the so-called "birthmother" (and adopted person)?  The mental health impacts of adoption are serious.  The psychological impacts of adoption are horrifying and also fascinating.   "It" is still alive, although "it" may have become numb just to cope with the loss. Many such "sacrificial offerings" later describe themselves as "sleepwalking" for years, with no one even to talk to. Upon awakening to reality the mothers may go through a traumatized re-living of events and/or obsessive thinking about their child.

Some "birthmothers" ("sacrificial offerings") are so thoroughly traumatized by the shameful treatment they received, by the loss of their child and by the complete lack of recognition of that loss, that they are completely unable to face it or mention it to anyone.

But some moms do come "out of the closet" and eventually a few even regain a little sense of humor about their family dismemberment.

....Perhaps some day they'll put together a country or rock band called the Wrong Tummy Momsters with songs like "Bitter Momma", "Living in Hell", and "Don't Mess With My Baby". They'll start out concerts with jokes about adoption lawyers at the bottom of the ocean and social workers begging St. Peter to be let into heaven. The last song of the night will be a rousing rendition of "Don't ^%ck With Me, Infertile B*tch!" And perhaps they will publish a newsletter called the "Stolen Children, Angry Mammas News".


(Note: If you are experiencing an unexpected "Unplanned Pregnancy",  check out the Mother's Song  website for unplanned pregnancy help and  ideas on how to keep your baby.)

 

 
 
There is an article that tells the truth about adoption and it's so good but it has an obscure name: 
 
America's Secret Crime Against the Family
 
Adoption is the Secret Crime - taking healthy babies from their moms and families and denying adopted people their civil and human rights.   
 
Adoption Punishment is possibly the most cruel and unusual punishment in the world. 
 
 
 
Adoption - It's all fun until somebody speaks up about it.
 
 

 
The status of women in a society may be partially determined by the number of women who have their babies adopted-out.

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