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Adoption Dolls

Adopting a Doll?  Adoption dolls contribute to the exploitation of women 

Adoption Dolls are popular - first there were cabbage patch dolls and now there are  Newborn Nursery doll adoption centers, where the dolls look just like real babies.  While adopting a doll seems innocent, the concept of doll adoption is exploitative to women.  In adoption, women who are naive or vulnerable are used as a source of babies. Doll adoption denies that the source of the  "adoptable baby" - the mother - even exists. 
When adopting a doll, the doll's heritage and identity are obliterated  - in the same way that heritage and identity are obliterated for a child in a real adoption.  Read the following press release about adoption dolls and another press release about heritage and adoptee human rights
Saks Newborn Nursery Infant Adoption - What is the Message to Little Girls?
Before you dismiss concerns about doll adoption, read about the effects of adoption on moms and babies and the effects of open adoption on so-called "birthmoms" and siblings of the adopted-out child
A Keynote Address - Effects of adoption on a mother and baby
Dear Birthmom - Is Adoption Worth the Grief?  Dear "Birthmom"?  Of course there are also "Dear Birthparent", "Dear Birthmother", letters
Many people say, "We have to adopt - what would happen to all those "unwanted babies" if we did not?  The number of supposedly "unwanted babies" seems to fluctuate based on the market demand, and on the adoptive buyers preferences.  In the 1960's, for example, Americans were told that millions of white babies were "unwanted" - yet black babies were almost always "wanted".   
The truth is that an unwanted or unplanned pregnancy does not mean an unwanted baby.  Nearly every baby is wanted by her mother - if not by her father, siblings, grandparents and other family members.  It may be true however, that certain families are unwanted by those who would maintain a patriarchal system - that is, families that are not of the "family-unit" type.  Killing two birds with one stone, those in power seek to decimate unwanted family types and supply the customers of "adoption services" with babies.  Babies are used for adoption - just like adoption dolls.
Just look at adoption quotes like this one:

PURELY AMERICAN: LAWS, LIES AND LOVE, Dr. D. William Troxler, Capital College, 2000

"The giver is called the birth mother or biological mother or natural mother. These terms cloud the fact that a mother who 'gave up' her child was authoritatively deceived at a vulnerable moment by her entire support system and the professionals who were supposed to serve her."


In reality, there is no such thing as a "birthmom" or "birthmother" - there is only the mother of the baby.  Calling a mother by these dehumanizing terms and using biased adoption language may help to get more babies for adoption, but it does nothing to benefit the babies or the babies' families.

Domestic Adoption Baby Boom - exploiting  American women and families (Infant Adoption, American Babies for Adoption)


But won't more babies wind up aborted if they are not adopted?  Read the following articles to learn the truth:
The following press release on Baby Safe Haven (Baby Moses Laws) provides some valuable insight into adoption as well as encouraging baby abandonment:
Families Need protection from Baby Safe Havens
Doll adoption may seem innocent enough on it's own.  See what Korean adoptees say about adoption and dolls for adoption.
Regarding doll adoption - and adoption in general - adoption must be a good thing or why would it be promoted so much?  Why are people allowed to use Dear Birthmother letters and get more babies for adoption?  Perhaps it is simply because no one speaks out against it.
Why "Dear Birthmother", adoption business cards and other  Solicitation to Obtain Babies for Adoption Must be Outlawed  
Adoption Dolls are popular - first there were cabbage patch dolls and now there are Newborn Nursery doll adoption centers, where the dolls look just like real babies.  It's sad to see families torn apart for adoption.

The status of women in a society may be partially determined by the number of women who have their babies adopted-out.

Mothers for Open Records Everywhere. Sign petition. Mothers (NOT 'birthmothers') for Open Records for Adoptees, No "birthparent" confidentiality or privacy promised or desired.