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"Birthmoms", "Lifemothers" - these terms target women as a source of babies for adoption

What is a "Birthmom" or a "Lifemother"?   

There is a large market for babies in the United States.  When a mother is targeted as the source of a baby for adoption, people begin calling her a "not-mother".  The term "unwed" used to be used to minimize a single mother, making her seem like less than a mother.  Now the dehumanizing terms "birthmother", "birthmom" and "life mother" are used, making a mom appear to be nothing but an incubator.  This makes it easier for people to feel entitled not to help her, but to use her to get a baby for adoption.

A mother is not an inanimate object (not a "birthmom" or "lifemother") but a human being.  The word "birthmom" is as offensive as a racial slur.  It is important to use the respectful term "mother" or "mom" for all mothers who have had babies. 

Read the following websites.  Educate yourself.

"Birthmom's Day, "Birthmothers Day" honors Birth Objecthood, dishonors Motherhood

Birthmom's Day Celebrations and Oppression

Dear "Birthmom" "Birthmother" Adoption Letters

Birthmoms Day dishonors mothers blog

Celebrating adoption and "birthmoms" means dishonoring women as moms

Dear "birthmom" - you are a Mother not a "birthmom"

"birthmom" means incubator birth object

"Birthmom" "Lifemother" is a bad word, offensive as a racial slur

"But someone else has my child," you say?   Your child is in their custody. 
But you must understand that adoption agencies, adoption attorneys and "professionals" profit from adoption.  They want more babies and they want everyone to think it is "normal" to take a mother's child.  Do you know that the adopters bought "counseling services" designed to get you to surrender your child?  There are also government-funded programs to advertise in order to obtain more babies for adoption. 
That's why it is important to use the respectful term "mother" or "mom" for all mothers who have had babies. 

Domestic Adoption Baby Boom Exploits Women

Adoption Solicitation for Babies Must be Outlawed

Adoption Articles - adoptees, "birthmoms" scammed

Choose Life License Plates - a Scam

"Positive Adoption Language" is Biased Against Real Families

Infant Adoption Awareness Training exploits women


The status of women in a society may be partially determined by the number of women who have their babies adopted-out.

Mothers for Open Records Everywhere. Sign petition. Mothers (NOT 'birthmothers') for Open Records for Adoptees, No "birthparent" confidentiality or privacy promised or desired.