Birthmother Stories
Mood:  celebratory
Now Playing: Rose Garden
Topic: Legal Adoption
Personal adoption stories are just that - personal - so it?s surprising anyone tells their story at all. Just hearing the word ?birthmother? or seeing the word ?birthmother? is enough to upset many moms. Is a mother really just a "birthmother-object" meant to be used as the source of a baby for adoption? No, a mother is the mother of her own child.

Still there are a few so-called ?birth moms? who have been willing to share their stories, accounts of how their infant sons and daughters were obtained for adoption by strangers. Then later the grown "babies" found their moms and in a few cases - repatriated into their natural families with their true heritage and ancestors.

There are lots of adoption stories written by adopters?adopters like to show off their ?generosity? in taking in a ?homeless orphan?. Unfortunately, most of these ?orphans? had families that loved them. But whenever there is a market for babies, there will be adoption agencies and adoption attorneys ?stepping up to the plate?, finding ways to get babies away from their own mothers. Getting babies adopted. Creating even more of those tragic adoption ?birthmother? stories.

Adoptee stories are often tragic as well. It seems the happiest adoption stories are told by adopters, soon after adoption - before reality sets in. Although we?d all like to think adoption is a perfect solution to everyone?s situation ?everyone benefits from adoption? the fact is that not everyone benefits from adoption. The adoption businesses may benefit from adoption - the businesses with the websites that have hokey, made-up, contrived ?birthmom stories? - where the mom says she?s 18 but writes like someone with a career in advertising. The adoption businesses benefit financially from adoption - or rather from selling babies.

Then you hear that silly ?adoption vs. abortion? argument - as if a newborn baby were about to be slain by his mother and must be adopted - quickly - to prevent a murder. Hello, people - that baby you are adopting is already born - you have not saved her from anything - you have just taken advantage of a vulnerable mom and denied this little baby the love of her own family.